We want to believe that by having sex, we’re “making love” and so many people talk about “making love” to describe their sexual encounters or acts.
Love is the element that makes the world go round and it literally does just that; not sex. Love-energy is the component that causes everything live to exist and without it we cannot and won’t exist. Since we now know, from research and previous articles that “sex is not love,” sex in reality kills the love that is supposed to be all over – the love that we should experience toward special people in our lives, toward living entities in our lives and toward our “neighbors.”
Sex especially kills the potential growth of love in a man, because a man can only grow love and get in touch with his feelings when sex is kept away from him – kept out of the relationship for the correct period of time while the couple get to know each other, are busy interacting to become compatible with one another, to understand each other, to grow love to full capacity and to become tolerant of one another. All these things take time and when we go against nature and the creation things just don’t work anymore. We were not created to have sex first, then fall in love and lastly get married. It just doesn’t work that way around as that is the wrong way around.
If we want to have a platonic relationship-bond with another in a supposedly special relationship such as a life-partnership or marriage, we can have sex with any person we so choose, just the way men thought it could be done for centuries, even millenniums. On the other hand of we want the bond between life-partners to be meaningful and deep, the only way to achieve that, would be to grow love and not sexual experience, pleasure or infatuation. In other words, the focus should be on love and not on sex!
When we, males and females, have sex, the focus is on what the sex provide us with and not on how we actually feel. A female could believe she has met her true love, when in reality she only made an emotional connection due to the sex, trapping her in something she shouldn’t even be a part of. A male on the other hand, never gets to that level of love, being unable to connect with his true feelings when sex is a part of the relationship, as there isn’t a necessity to reach that level of love, since what he was supposed to get as a reward for getting in contact with his true feelings and experiencing true deep love, he got in the beginning.
There are always the exceptions; where people fall in love deeply in a very short while and whose love last a lifetime, but these are usually superiorly secure and whole people, able to develop their love at super speed. The rest of us fairly normal people need time to properly and entirely fall in love, not to mention, to get to know a potential life-partner completely-inside and out.
There are people who get married by way of an arranged marriage and there are people who choose to marry before knowing the other party well or even before having any feelings for the other. This could only work if both parties are wholly secure and know within, they are able to love any person who treats them with dignity and respect, who behaves well and who contributes rather contaminate. This way the souls are joined together first through the vows; and the unifications in the spirit-world is strong enough to withstand any challenge and obstacle. The moral of the story here again is love. Only when two people are secure, which means “already filled with love” to contribute the love to the relationship, could an arranged-marriage succeed and in most cases it does. The reason for this is that the parents are so involved in their child’s life, which provides the security and love that the child could get married to any individual, the parents have chosen and make a success of it. Parents choose out of logic and not as a result of misconstrued emotional actions and feelings, something that happens to people all over the globe when sex is involved.
People have such a yearning to be secured somewhere and since most people confuse sex with love, they have sex with the wrong people and then force marriage or a life-partnership when it wasn’t supposed to happen.
When sex is brought into a relationship, it stops the development of love, as sex is the reward to an established and secure relationship and not the start of creating a relationship. Sex can never be used as foundation for a secure relationship, yet many try to and even after realizing the mistake, they still try to force it to be this way. Sex is the declaration and visible act, proving to belong to another, another soul, not in legal terms or in theory, but by action. The problem here is that many millions of people don’t support love and the development of love, but rather sex that would ultimately result in the destruction of experiencing true love.
We are in a trap of socially acceptable sex, approved drugs, artificial consumables (food and beverages), synthetic clothing, misconstrued beliefs and religions, and false relationships, but sex is the act that removes the most important experience of it all-the experience of love. Once love ceases to exist, there will be no need for physical existence and life anymore.
Beware: Sex truly kills love!
Lizelle Du Plessis has a passion to help people and put together an Intensive Relationship and Self Improvement Manual at [http://www.universalsexethics.com], which covers the social and spiritual aspects of this unique sex ethics. Become a member and receive two parts of the manual as a free download. The lectures are available as PDFs, to download individually at [http://www.universalsexethics.com/blog].
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